How to Wedding Plan and Save with a Groomzilla

What do you do when you’re overcome with stress and frustration about your upcoming wedding and you begin to take it out on everyone around you?

Well, many would say that you’ve become a bridezilla.

What happens when the bridezilla is not in fact the bride, but the groom?

Picture this: your boyfriend proposes with a beautiful diamond engagement ring.  You say yes and let it be known to the world that in 8-16 months, there will be wedding and oh, will it be a wedding.

But the thing is, you, in your busy and over-stimulated life, have very little energy to plan out every last detail of your wedding day.  You couldn’t care less that not inviting so-and-so will piss off what’s-his-name.   Heck, you’d probably just be happy having a BBQ and being surrounded by the people that you love most (while also saving a ton of money!).

Your man, on the other hand?  Not so much.  He has an opinion on everything – from the food and entertainment to the color of the bridesmaids’ dresses.  Suddenly, he finds it utterly imperative that your wedding have flame-juggling clowns on stilts and he won’t back down until he gets it.

All this hoopla begs the question: since when do guys care so much about weddings?  And more importantly, why on earth do they care so much?

Two things come to mind.  Firstly, the road to domesticity used to go like this: the guy forks over the cash to buy an engagement ring and the bride’s family pays for the wedding (a vestige of the dowry).  Nowadays, however, though the man will still pay for the engagement ring he might also pay for part of the wedding as well.  So it’s only natural that he will want to have a say in where they money goes.

The other reason, though more a hypothesis than anything else, is that the gender divide between men and women is slowly become more blurred in certain areas.  It’s becoming more socially acceptable for a man to dabble in what is traditionally considered his more “feminine” side.  More men are stay-at-home Dads than ever before and often times, by choice.

Having a super involved groom is often a great sign of things to come.  Some might argue that he’s acting this way because he cares enough to make your wedding a special day.  It’s also important to note that he is helping you with the workload (and indeed, it’s a big one), and this could mean that he’ll be a dedicated father and life partner.

Just make sure to use your executive power to veto the clowns on stilts!

Here’s a tip on something that you can most definitely plan together:

You can easily save up to a few hundred dollars by buying your wedding ring with the same jeweler where you bought your engagement ring.  For example, JamesAllen.com gives all customers, who bought their engagement rings on their website. 10% off their wedding rings.

Jackie is a writer for JamesAllen.com, a leading online jewelry company.  She loves writing about all things wedding and of course, jewelry.  She hopes you all will check JamesAllen.com to save big on stunning engagement and wedding rings!